“Why am I not happier?”
Excellence. Contentment. Clarity. The foundation is in place, yet the “good life” is still a distant dream.
All your hard work wasn’t for nothing (though it can feel that way); reaching one’s potential - much less achieving excellence, contentment, or clarity - can seem impossible.
If something feels off or is missing, I say welcome!
Life’s easier with a confidante, someone unrelated yet highly-related, with whom meaning and purpose are inspired by your ambition and emotion.
This is my role: confidante. It’s what I do and what I offer you.
Coaches v. Psychoanalysts
Many today work with career, life or executive coaches. I have too and found the best ones to be exquisite listeners who ask the right question at the right time (a true art). They’ve helped me build out my executive skillset, presence, and made me far more productive.
Their focus is often on the short-term, on the doing - not on what one thinks or feels, nor why. It’s unfair to expect otherwise for our goals differ. Psychoanalysts focus upon thoughts and feelings - the what’s, how’s and why’s across the whole human mix: relationships, self-esteem, family, sexuality, money and much more. Many of these aspects interact with one another in a complicated, profound and highly personal ways…
If you want someone to help you achieve a specific goal or think through decisions, call in a coach. If you want to cultivate a deeper understanding of and appreciation for what you think and feel (and why), sit with an analyst. A surprisingly large number of highly successful people work successfully with both - often at the same time!
What is Better Indeed?
Better Indeed LLC is a private practice where meaning & purpose are defined, refined and inspired by your ambition and your emotion.
This practice is owned by David Rudolph Schoenberger, a licensed psychoanalyst based in Manhattan.
Here’s a bit more about me to help you consider your options. I offer free consultations for us both to assess fit and if it doesn’t feel right, or I don’t believe I can truly be of help, we move on. No harm, no foul.
Who am I?
I’m a top-school MBA who, after 25 years working with products for the Fortune 500 and at the scrappiest startups, left the building to work with people — as a classically-trained psychoanalyst.
Having a family and having survived many business cycles and nasty power struggles, I have a rock-solid, non-judgmental appreciation for the day-to-day existence and work/life imbalance of striving professionals - which has proven extraordinarily helpful to my patients’ progress.
This corporate/clinical background is unique and allows me to understand the context in a way those who’ve not been there cannot. For more information, please see my profile on Psychology Today.
What’s it like working with me?
I’m different with everyone, changing gears to meet you where you are at each moment. I’m kind but can be tough. I’ll listen patiently, yet call bullshit when necessary. I’ll follow you down any road, marking it so that we can revisit – scathed perhaps but also enlightened.
Most psychoanalysts don’t divulge. I’ll selectively share but give back primarily by stringing together relevant bits & pieces of what you offered albeit in a new and, ideally, a meaningful way. This will deepen your self-understanding and engender a true appreciation that wasn’t there before.
I view this work as a sandbox for exploring one’s humanity. Ours will be a relationship like few others, one that tests, provokes, frustrates and fascinates. It will deepen and widen over time - even after we’ve moved on. (Yes, I believe in endings and will ensure ours ends well and in a reasonable timeframe.)
With whom do I work?
I work well with corporate execs at the top of their games (or working feverishly to get there), startup founders/leaders, or their life partners - though never together unless it’s a couple’s session. I also treat academics and creatives: artists, designers, musicians, actors, writers, directors and producers. A portion of my practice is dedicated to those in financial need.
What’s my specialty?
This is like asking someone what music they like, hoping they won’t say “everything!” I won’t. I’ve worked well with those suffering, slightly or severely, from one or more of the following conditions:
Impulse Control Issues
For more information, please see my profile on Psychology Today.
What’s my theoretical bent?
This is heresy, but I never trusted therapists nor their business model. I thought I could fix things myself, faster and more cheaply. I tried and failed many times and after a very good experience, became a believer and now a practitioner.
While a classically-trained Freudian, my studies have taken me far and wide theoretically. I’m constantly deepening my analytic and clinical toolkit, borrowing from other branches of psychology (especially cognitive science) as well as from the humanities.
What do I believe? Perhaps that great humanist Carl Rogers said it best; this, if anything, embodies my practice and my faith:
“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.”
The hardest part is often the very start, so I tried to make it as easy as 1-2-3:
Step 2: I will respond to your inquiry and schedule a free phone/Skype consultation.
Step 3: We determine fit and, if it’s good, find a mutually convenient time to begin our work.