“This was supposed to be better…”
Excellence. Happiness. Contentment. The foundation’s in place yet “the good life” is still a distant dream.
All that work wasn’t for nothing, though it can feel that way; it’s just achieving excellence, happiness and contentment is harder than ever.
If something is off - seems missing - or if a strength has become a weakness, you’re in the right place - welcome!
Life’s easier with a confident, someone to share it all with, as meaning and purpose are inspired by your ambition and emotion.
This is my role: confident. It’s what I do and what I offer you.
What is Better Indeed?
Better Indeed LLC is a private practice where meaning & purpose are inspired by ambition and emotion. The practice is owned by David Rudolph Schoenberger, a licensed psychoanalyst based in Manhattan.
Size might not matter but fit certainly does. Here’s a bit about me to help you consider your options. Note that I offer a free consultation for to assess the fit. If it doesn’t feel right or if I don’t believe I can help, we move on. No harm, no foul.
Who am I?
I’m a recovering MBA who, after 25 years in industry, left the building to pursue life as a classically-trained psychoanalyst. I was a “corporate gladiator” for both the Fortune 500 and the scrappiest startups. (I’m also a consultant, advisor, mentor and a founder.)
My background is unique in this field and helps me understand the business context in a way those who haven’t been there might not. Having lived by the quarter, and survived situations plagued by epic power struggles and creative differences I often have a solid, non-judgmental appreciation for most professionals’ day-to-day existences and work/life imbalances, which has proven extraordinarily helpful.
Oh, and I speak plainly too – no jargon unless it’s absolutely necessary.
What’s it like working with me?
I’m different with everyone, changing gears to meet you where you are at each moment. I’m kind but can be tough too. I’ll listen patiently, yet call bullshit when necessary. I’ll follow you down any road, marking it so that we can revisit – scathed perhaps but also enlightened.
Most psychoanalysts don’t divulge. I’ll selectively share but give back primarily by stringing together relevant bits & pieces of what you offered albeit in a new and, ideally, super-meaningful way. This will deepen your self-understanding and engender a true appreciation that wasn’t there before.
I view our work as a sandbox for exploration and emotion. Ours will be a relationship like no other, one that tests, provokes, frustrates and fascinates. It will deepen and widen over time - even after we’ve both moved on. (Yes, I believe in endings and ours shall end well and in a reasonable timeframe.)
With whom do I work?
I work well with corporate execs at the top of their games (or working feverishly to get there), startup founders/leaders, or their life partners - though never together unless it’s a couple’s session. I also treat academics and creatives: artists, designers, musicians, actors, writers, directors and producers. A small portion of my practice is dedicated to those in financial need.
What’s my specialty?
This is like asking someone what music they like, hoping they won’t say “everything!” I won’t. I’ve worked well with those suffering, slightly or severely, from one or more of the following conditions:
Impulse Control Issues
What’s my theoretical bent?
This is heresy, but I never trusted therapists nor their business model. I thought I could fix things myself, faster and more cheaply. I tried and failed many times and after a very good experience, became a believer and now a practitioner.
While a classically-trained Freudian, my studies have taken me far and wide theoretically. I’m constantly deepening my analytic and clinical toolkit, borrowing from other branches of psychology (especially cognitive science) as well as from the humanities.
What do I believe? Perhaps that great humanist Carl Rogers said it best; this, if anything, embodies my practice and my faith:
“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.”
The hardest part is often the very start. I’ve tried to make this process easy:
Step 2: I will respond to your inquiry and schedule a free phone/Skype consultation.
Step 3: We determine fit and, if it’s good, find a mutually convenient time to begin our work.